The Ex-Factor...

So here you are - years later, and you've finally moved on. That guy/girl is history. You've left the pain of the past behind you. You're feeling fine and ready to press forward. Then you get that phone call/voice mail/email/text message/tweet/Facebook poke from "you-know-who," and in an instant, your oh-so-perfect-world is a steaming hot mess! Your strong sense of self has turned into mush, and the realization dawns that perhaps you haven't quite moved on. It's the "ex-factor," and almost all of us can relate. How do you know when you've really gotten over someone? How do you know when it's time to move on? Here are some suggestions from my own experience. Some of them may seem obvious, but hey! - There's a reason they say that "love is blind!" You Know You've Gotten Over Someone When... 1. You don't call (or want to call) him twice a day, everyday. 2. You don't think or daydream about her 24/7 (or any fraction close to that.) 3. You don't bring up his name repeatedly in conversation for no apparent reason at all. (Example - Friend: "I'm going to have a piece of cake." You: "You know, Johnny likes cake...") 4. You don't pray this prayer anymore: "God, if it's Your Will, please let this be..." 5. You can see her with someone else and not wish Psalm 139:19 upon her (or the person she's with!) You Know It's Time to Move On When... 1. The person is with someone else. (Seriously. This should be obvious, but Lord, I'm a witness!) 2. The person is married. (Please see above.) 3. You've been with the person for more than 5 years, but he or she can't imagine marrying you. [Or...you could wait 5 more years. Maybe they'll change their mind...(roll eyes)] 4. The person has moved and neglected to tell you where they've gone. (Subtle hint? I think not.) 5. You were told that the person unfortunately passed away, but then you run into them unexpectedly in a supermarket a few years later. (Enough said!) Seriously, guys! Trust me, girls! God has something fabulous in store for you! You deserve God's best, so wait for God's best. Don't settle for "Mr./Mrs. All Right for Right Now!" If someone is not meant for you, it does not mean that something is wrong with you. It means that person is not meant for you! Drop the "X," and make room for the other letters in your relationship alphabet! You'll be glad when you do!